Does Insurance Cover Therapy? How to Get the Support You Need

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Does Insurance Cover Therapy?

Quality mental healthcare is essential—but not always accessible. Before seeking professional help, it’s important to know what mental health services are available to you under your current health insurance plan.


So—is therapy insurable? The short answer? 


It depends! 


Most plans offer some level of coverage for mental healthcare, including therapy.


The long answer? Mental health benefits are determined by medical necessity, which requires a mental health diagnosis. Coverage may apply to pre-existing conditions or, if not yet formally diagnosed, a provisional diagnosis. 


If your condition is covered, coverage may be determined by federal parity law.


Under federal parity law, coverage for mental health services is comparable to medical care, including behavioral health and treatment for substance abuse. (For example, the copay for a therapy session may be equal to or less than an appointment with your general physician, or another comparable service.)


To help you find the best route to therapy, we’ll go over what to expect from insurance coverage and how to find out if therapy is covered under your current plan.

What to Know About Insurance Coverage for Therapy

Health insurance companies determine the type of mental healthcare deemed medically necessary under your current plan. This may include, but is not limited to behavioral health treatment, substance abuse services, psychotherapy, and telemedicine such as Emote’s online therapy and counseling services.


The type of plan—be it private, state, or federally insured—also determines copayments and deductibles for services like therapy. 


Employee health insurance plans and government programs like Medicaid often cover therapy. They are also subject to parity law—with some limitations. 


To learn more about health insurance coverage, we’ve broken down types of coverage and what to expect from each.


Inherent issues with using insurance for therapy

As enacted by the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act (MHPAEA) in 2008, parity law removes restrictive pricing for mental health benefits. That said, insurers are not obligated to include mental health benefits, and for those that do, therapy may still be a limited option.


Many therapists do not accept insurance. This is due to low reimbursement rates, despite rising costs for practices and outpatient care.


If you can find a network therapist, waiting lists can stretch on for weeks. Furthermore, the number of sessions may be managed by your insurer. Though legal insurers cannot enforce an annual limit on sessions, they can evaluate what is “medically necessary” based on your condition.


Finally, with insurance, you will still have to manage copays. Copayments are out-of-pocket costs for services like hospital stays and office visits. This is predetermined by your coverage and may be financially non-viable for you. 


Health insurance market plans

Mental health treatment is listed as one of the 10 essential health benefits provided through the Affordable Care Act. All marketplace plans are part of the ACA. All plans also include treatment for behavioral health and substance abuse disorder services for individuals, families, and/or small businesses.


Coverage varies by state. To view plan options and how to apply for coverage, visit


Employer-sponsored insurance for companies with 50+ employees

All companies with 50 or more employees are legally obligated to provide health insurance. However, employers are not legally obligated to provide mental health benefits. If mental health benefits are provided, they are subject to federal parity laws.


Non-federal government organizations, such as public schools and state universities, may be exempt from this law. If you are a state government employee, review your insurance plan to find out whether your benefits are subject to parity.


Employer-sponsored insurance for companies with less than 50 employees

Small businesses are not legally obligated to provide health insurance. However, if insured under the Affordable Care Act, mental health benefits must be provided.


Medicaid and Medicare

Both Medicaid and Medicare offer coverage for mental health conditions, such as addiction, mood, and behavioral disorders.


Most Medicaid programs are subject to parity law, with varying degrees of coverage from state to state.


Medicare is not subject to parity.


Under Medicare, mental health services are available through Part A, B, C, and D insurance plans. Part A covers inpatient care, including psychiatric hospital stays of up 190 days


Part B covers outpatient care, including therapy. Family counseling and couples therapy may be covered if deemed relevant to your treatment plan.


Coverage through Part C and D is privately insured. Part C provides a combination of Part A and B plans, while Part D provides coverage for medication.


Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP)

The Children’s Health Insurance Program, or CHIP, provides low-cost healthcare to children from low-income households. According to 2018 statistics, 9.6 million children have been enrolled in the program. As a federally funded program, CHIP is subject to parity laws and is legally mandated to provide mental health coverage for services like therapy and counseling.

How to Check if My Insurance Covers Therapy

Though it may appear overwhelming, you can easily find information on your plan and how to navigate things like insurance claims for therapy and other mental health services.


You can also find out whether your insurance is liable under parity or not, and the cost comparison between mental and physical health insurance. 


Here’s how:


Log in and check your online insurance account


All information on benefits and costs should be available online through your insurance provider’s website. Register for an online account if you haven’t already, and review your specific plan.


In addition to coverage specifics, information on network providers should also be available. If covered, this will include therapists, psychologists, and other mental health professionals insured by your provider.


Check with your company’s HR department

If you are insured through an employer-sponsored healthcare plan, contact an HR representative about insurance benefits. A representative will be able to answer any questions about mental health wellness and related programs available through or sponsored by your company’s insurer. 


Call or reach out to your insurance provider

You may also speak directly to an insurance representative. A phone number and email address should be located on the back of your insurance card or on their website. Any specific questions about your insurance policy will be easier to answer if you provide a diagnostic code.


Ask your therapist or therapy provider if they accept your insurance

Alternatively, your therapist or mental health provider will be able to answer any questions about insurance. Be aware that many mental health professionals, including therapists, do not accept insurance due to low reimbursement fees. Network therapists also often change insurance plans and you may have to find a new therapist if you cannot afford their rates thereafter.

Accessible and Affordable Online Therapy with Emote

Let’s face it: Filing insurance claims and juggling copayments is mentally and physically taxing.


But with Emote, you don’t have to worry about coverage—high-quality mental healthcare is just a click away.


Through virtual sessions, a certified therapist is ready and able to assist you at a moment’s notice. From depression and anxiety to addiction and bipolar disorder, our trained mental health professionals can provide you with tools to better manage mental illness and improve your mental well-being—all at an affordable rate!


Slash the cost of therapy and cut out months-long waitlists through our subscription plans. With Emote, your first week of therapy will only cost $35.


Whatever you need, with Emote, you’re not alone


Start today to gain exclusive access to our versatile therapy services and never worry about high out-of-pocket costs again.

Why Do I Hate My Family and What Should I Do?

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There is no such thing as a perfect family. Just as all human beings are unique and flawed, every family is complex and sometimes difficult. 


For some, family relationships are a source of pain and heartache. 


Though we are all raised to believe family comes first, sometimes our loved ones are detrimental to our well-being. This is especially true if you’ve grown up in a toxic household or have experienced trauma at some point in your life


Hating your family doesn’t make you a bad person unworthy of love and respect. 


However, to set healthy boundaries, you must first evaluate and identify where these emotions are coming from in the first place. That way, you can learn (or re-learn) self-love and build healthy relationships in and outside of your family.


In this article, we’ll go over some common toxic traits in families, why you may hate your family, and how to create and maintain a healthy distance if needed.

Is My Family Toxic? How Can I Tell?

It can be difficult to identify, much less accept, a toxic family life. This is especially true when it’s all we know. 


Our family members are meant to be the people we can rely on during hard times, from whom we can expect unconditional love and support—and this may still be true, even in the face of complicated relationships. However, no amount of love, respect, or duty justifies bad behavior or abuse.


Whether you’re embroiled in family drama or spending less time at home, here are a few signs to look out for that may indicate your family is toxic.


Sign: You don’t enjoy being around them or their company.

When a volatile family member is present, you may feel uncomfortable or agitated. You have trouble relaxing around them and try to maintain a physical or emotional distance, even when they’re being nice or affectionate.


Sign: You don’t spend much time together as a family.

“Family time” doesn’t exist in your home. Or if it does, it’s rare and feels awkward, perhaps forced. When you do spend time together, fights break out. Although not every family can get along 24/7, a complete lack of quality time makes for an emotionally distant family.


Sign: They put you down, and you’re constantly being criticized.

Families can be our greatest source of self-judgment. However, there is a big difference between unwanted opinions and blatant disrespect. No matter how well-meaning someone’s intentions are, harsh and unnecessary comments are always that—harsh and unnecessary. 


Sign: You feel like you are rebelling or avoiding them.

To cope with toxic home life, you may try to maintain a physical or emotional distance and act out of character. To do this, you unconsciously or consciously spend as little time as possible with your family. You may stay in your room all day, leave the house frequently, break curfew, or do things you know will upset them.


Sign: There’s substance use involved.

Drugs and alcohol do not inherently make someone belligerent. However, alcohol lowers inhibitions, leading to choices a person would never make while sober. This includes inappropriate comments and, sometimes, physical violence. Drug use also facilitates aggressive or out-of-character behavior that may make you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Substance abuse often goes hand-in-hand with harmful behavior, even if the toxic family member seems “better” the next day.


Why Do I Hate My Family?

Though it may feel shameful, hating your family doesn’t make you a bad parent, child, or sibling. 


Your hatred may be borne from a difficult situation, such as a death in the family or betrayed trust, and isn’t necessarily permanent. Alternatively, your feelings may be the result of years of fraught relations and conflicting personalities.


Whatever it may be, there is always a cause behind negative emotions. 


Here are some possible reasons to keep in mind while evaluating your feelings:


Reason: They don’t respect my boundaries and constantly push me around.

Just as you are entitled to your own life and hobbies, you are entitled to privacy and respect. This applies to parent-child relationships where emotional and physical boundaries are easily blurred under the pretense of discipline and protection. 


For example, it’s inappropriate for a parent to go through phones or belongings. It’s also unhealthy to be emotionally available to them 24/7. You were not born to be your parent’s best friend and should be able to function outside of that relationship.


Reason: We don’t share the same values and perspectives.

Differing beliefs often create tension within families. Though you may have been raised to think or act in a certain way, this is not the deciding factor on what you choose to support later on in life.


Reason: They neglect or avoid me and constantly leave me out of things.

A caregiver is not only meant to provide basic needs such as food and education but also love and attention. If a caregiver, or another family member, treats you poorly by neglecting your wants and needs, feelings of resentment and hatred can brew.


Reason: They put an enormous amount of pressure on me.

High expectations from parents can lead to stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem in children. This also affects adults, who grow up to become perfectionists and are highly critical of their self-worth.


Reason: They are emotionally and/or physically abusive.

Abuse is not limited to physical violence. Name-calling, throwing items, inappropriate sexual contact or comments, gaslighting, and controlling behavior are all forms of abuse.


If you experience or have experienced physical, verbal, psychological, or sexual abuse from family members, your negative emotions are the result of trauma.


If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence and in need of help, please reach out to one of the crisis resources listed here.


How Do I Distance Myself in a Healthy Way?

It’s easy to tolerate bad behavior from family when it’s the norm. However, this does not give them the right to treat you with disrespect or unkindness.


If a toxic or abusive person is unable to make up or apologize for their past mistakes, the healthy decision is to create distance.


To do so, you must first set boundaries—with yourself and with loved ones. By setting boundaries, not only are you prioritizing your mental health, but you’re strengthening self-worth and managing realistic expectations. 


Here’s how to safely create and maintain distance with toxic family members:


Identify who is toxic and be aware of your triggers.

Constant fighting and gaslighting are all traits of a dysfunctional family. These traits may be caused by the actions of specific persons in the family. By identifying abusers and/or enablers, you can better understand the root of negative emotions, such as low esteem and self-hatred.


Seeking outside support can also be helpful. By working with Emote’s highly qualified and flexible mental health services, an online therapist or counselor will be able to help you identify triggers, manage emotions, and navigate volatile situations. 


Limit your time around them.

Spend as little time with them as possible. Family members may try to persuade or gaslight you into spending time with you but remember, you are not their property. You should not be forced to speak or see them if you don’t want to.


However, if you must see a potentially abusive family member, bring a close friend along with you or meet in a public space where they’re unlikely to act out. That way, you have more power in the situation.


Walk away from high-intensity situations.

Detachment isn’t easy, but sometimes, it’s necessary.


By practicing emotional detachment, you’re less likely to be reeled into family drama. Present yourself as calmly as possible and speak in a calm voice. As soon as you can, simply walk away. 


Although this may irritate or anger them, you’re setting a clear boundary on what you will and will not accept from them by refusing to participate in their bad behavior.


Cut off online communication channels (social media).

Create further distance with toxic family members by limiting contact online. To do so, you can block them on social media and change usernames and other relevant information. Disable the option for phone contacts to find you on social media.


If necessary, you can also change your phone number or block theirs to cut off contact entirely.

What Should I Do If I Hate My Family?

From a young age, we’re taught to accept the good and bad from family. Unfortunately, sometimes the bad outweighs the good, and we need to prioritize our needs before others.


Emote offers you the chance to not only work on yourself but to improve your well-being and cultivate healthy boundaries with a toxic family.


With the assistance of a qualified therapist, you can identify emotional triggers, learn how to distance yourself from toxic parents or siblings, and break cycles of abuse within your own family.


You’re also free to communicate privately. Through text or private video chat sessions, Emote’s secure chat system will fly under the radar and ensure ease of access, day or night.


Whatever your goal is, remember that Emote is a safe, non-judgemental space dedicated to helping you improve. With Emote, you’re not alone.


Start now and gain exclusive access to our flexible, affordable therapy services. Get matched with a therapist today, and your first week of therapy will only cost $35. Continue working with us, and you’ll gain access to our flexible subscription plans and personalized therapy experience.

I Hate Being a Mom: The Why and What To Do

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I Hate Being a Mom Sometimes… Is That Okay? 

Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or on the career track, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: Motherhood isn’t easy. 


You’re responsible for another human being who can’t always communicate their needs and throw tantrums to get their way. You not only have to manage your child’s welfare, but that of your home and finances. To add, if you’re a single mom, a lack of partner support means you have even less time to decompress.


Hating or resenting your children doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom. If anything, it means you’re human.


And much like the smaller human beings in your life, you can’t control how you feel. However, just as you soothe your child when they’re scared or upset, you also have to take care of your emotional well-being.


In this article, we’ll help you identify why you might be unhappy as a mother, how to address the issue, and how to get help if you need it.

Common Reasons Behind Unhappy Motherhood

If you’re going through a hard time, it’s normal to resent your situation or the circumstances that led up to it.


Mothering is no exception. 


By identifying your emotions and calling out a problem for what it is—a problem—you can take the first step towards a healthier, more manageable relationship with parenthood and your child.


To help you get started, here are few common reasons why you might be unhappy as a mother:


“I have no support or help.”

We like to think of moms as superheroes who can do everything on their own, but in reality, they can’t.


And that’s okay.


Without a stable support system, mothers are at risk of developing postpartum depression.


Affecting 1 in 8 women, mothers with PD struggle with intense emotions, like anger or helplessness. Feelings of isolation can worsen if you’re a first-time mom or single parent without access to resources or family members that can help out.


Mothers may also develop clinical depression due to lack of sleep, stress, and the mental toll of raising a child without support, whether physical, emotional, or financial. 


“I never wanted kids to begin with.”

It’s a difficult truth, but not every mom wanted to be a mother.


Some mothers are pressured into being a parent by cultural norms or familial expectations. Others fall unexpectedly pregnant.


Though this doesn’t make for a bad parent, it can lead to feelings of resentment or anger for a major life change you never wanted.


“My marriage or partnership is falling apart.” 

If two parents are involved, child-rearing is ideally done as a partnership. However, for women in heterosexual relationships, a majority of the childcare tends to fall on the mother, straining the relationship between her and the father. 


This can also happen with same-sex and non-gender-conforming couples, where one parent tends to be more responsible for childcare than the other.


A lack of sleep, money and alone time can further deepen the tension.


“I have no time to myself, and I’m losing my identity.”

Parenthood is a full-time job, especially if you have small children or children with special needs. You may long for your old lifestyle or the aspirations you had to give up to be a parent. Your sense of self can feel diminished or non-existent due to all your attention and time spent caring for your children.


“My child(ren) are really challenging and display disruptive or concerning behavior.”

Toddlers throw tantrums; teenagers curse and rebel. It’s a fact of life, but there’s a difference between acts of defiance that signify your child’s developing independence—and a disruptive behavior disorder.


A disruptive behavior disorder (DBD) is a mental health condition common amongst children. They’re not necessarily the result of bad parenting, but a genuine behavioral issue that can make parenting stressful and grueling without the help of a licensed counselor


“It’s causing me and my family financial problems.”

Raising a child isn’t only emotionally and physically demanding—it’s financially taxing. 


From diapers and formula to saving up for college tuition, wanting the best for your child takes its toll. Financial issues often strain a marriage, with unresolved disputes about money being more recurrent than any other marital issue.


“I don’t feel good enough and there’s a pressure to be perfect.”

On social media, mothers are portrayed as superheroes—infallible and unrealistic. 


Mothers can seemingly raise a house full of kids, maintain a career, keep a perfect figure, and stay happily in love with their spouse.


As a result, many mothers feel compelled to perform as parents. Combined with cultural or familial pressures, it’s easy to feel as though you are somehow failing as a mother by not painting a cookie-cutter image 24/7.

What Should I Do if I Hate Being a Mom?

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs out there, and it’s only made harder by silence, a lack of self-care, and, worst of all, mom guilt.


Though you can’t control your emotions, you can pause, close your eyes, and take a deep breath. By taking a moment to examine how you’re feeling, you can think of better ways to manage your emotions and the challenges of motherhood. 


Yes, when you open your eyes, your child will still be there—but so will you, a human being equally deserving of care.


To help you get started, here are a few suggestions on how to prioritize your needs:


Know you’re not alone

You’re not a bad person for feeling the way you do. Furthermore, you are neither alone nor unique in your situation; many moms have felt as you do.


Though mothers are idolized by society, motherhood is a complicated, messy thing. Not every mother is blissful or satisfied with motherhood, and there’s nothing shameful about that.


Ask for help from friends and family

Have you heard the phrase, “It takes a village to raise a child”? 


Though traditionally mothers are the heart of childcare, we often forget about the people around us who would be more than happy to help out.


Reach out to family and friends when you need a break or some help around the house. If none are close by, schedule time for a visit. 


Open up about how you’re feeling in whatever way you feel comfortable and ask for what you need. Be specific.


Schedule a “you-day” 

Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or a working mom, alone time is a necessity, not a luxury. Give yourself a full day to focus on self-care, hobbies, or anything else you’d like to do.


You may call a babysitter over on the weekends, schedule a weekly playdate, or ask your partner to take over. Whatever you decide, try not to think about your kids or all the trouble they’ll get into. They’ll be just fine.


Stop comparing yourself to others

How other moms decide to parent will always differ from how you choose to. Accept that you’re doing your best. 


Whether that means sleeping in on Sundays, letting your kids eat junk food sometimes, or relying on others for help, what matters is you and your children’s continued welfare and happiness.


Give yourself permission to be imperfect

All good mothers make mistakes. Sometimes they lose their patience and raise their voice when they shouldn’t. Other times, they’re late to pick up their kids from school. It happens, and it’s okay.


Just remember that your child loves you unconditionally. They don’t need you to be perfect, and neither should anyone else. 


Get professional help and look for resources

Many women struggle with mental health issues, and those with children are no exception.


Women are more likely to develop an anxiety disorder compared to men and are susceptible to different types of depression, such as postpartum depression and perimenopausal depression.


Combined with the stress and emotional toll of child-rearing, mentally ill mothers may feel helpless and isolated—but they’re not.


Here at Emote, a trained professional is able to guide you through motherhood. And the best part is that it doesn’t have to cut into family life.


You’re free to schedule appointments from the comfort of your home or text your therapist during your lunch. Whatever the time, our virtual therapy office stays open.

Reclaim Your Joy with Emote Online Therapy

A lot of moms have felt the way you do—angry, frustrated, resentful. Raising a child is hard work, and it never stops. But that doesn’t mean it can’t get better.


Whether you’re a new mom with a one-year-old at home or a veteran with several teens under your belt, how you feel is real and valid, and you’re deserving of being heard


At Emote, we offer just that: an empathetic ear.


With the help of our highly qualified mental health professionals, a therapist or family counselor can help you develop skills to better handle motherhood or tackle issues like low self-esteem and negative thoughts.


Through convenient online therapy sessions, you cut out carpools, long waitlists, and short-notice babysitters. You can contact your therapist whenever you need them, through text or video.


With Emote, you’re not alone.


Start today and learn how to reclaim joy as a mother for only $35 during your first week of therapy. Check out our FAQ to learn more, or contact us for questions and concerns.

Does My Husband Hate Me? What to Look For and How to Fix It

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No marriage is without its struggles, but sometimes, we can feel unloved or even hated by our spouse when things aren’t going well.


Whether based on fact or feeling, negative emotions need to be addressed. Be it through professional help or a long sit-down with your husband, you two must communicate.


However, before doing so, you also have to look inside yourself and ask where these feelings are coming from in the first place. 


Questions like “Why does my husband hate me?”, “Am I doing something wrong?”, or “Does he not love me anymore?” could be rooted in low self-esteem or the result of recent marital problems. They can also act as a guideline to unrealized issues.


It’s more than likely that your husband doesn’t hate you. However, that’s not to say there’s nothing wrong and that you should remain silent.


In this article, we’ll go over signs to look out for, reasons for your husband’s behavior, and how to get help.

Does My Husband Hate Me? The Signs to Look For

Every couple goes through hard times and ultimately, how your husband feels is out of your control. The same goes for his actions and how he chooses to handle confrontation and his emotions.


But persistent marital problems are more than just a “rough patch.” They can be signs of dissatisfaction or a lack of fulfillment in the marriage and may even indicate deeper issues like failing physical or mental health


Whatever the cause may be, if there’s a problem, it’s always worth looking deeper.


If you suspect some ill feelings and want to begin addressing issues with your husband, here a few warnings to look for:


He avoids you and is both physically and mentally absent.

Consciously or unconsciously avoiding your spouse is a form of stonewalling. By not discussing issues or even engaging in polite conversation, your husband is creating a mental and physical barrier that is neither helpful nor healthy.


He’s no longer affectionate and doesn’t want to be intimate.

Sexual and romantic needs come and go in any marriage, but a sudden or steady decline in physical intimacy is reasonable cause for worry. Depending on other factors like family, age, work, and kids, a happy marriage should at least foster warmth, love, and care.


He doesn’t notice or is indifferent to your absence.

Making a marriage work isn’t easy, but it’s harder when you feel invisible. This is especially true if your husband is a workaholic and his career takes precedence over not only your relationship—but everything else that matters

Alternatively, it may indicate that he’s a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies and does not value your needs as highly as his own.


He forgets your birthday, anniversary, or other important days.

Forgetting a birthday or anniversary isn’t necessarily a deal-breaker. However, if you can’t remember the last time you celebrated an important day together, much less received an apology for a missed dinner date, it’s easy to feel neglected and unappreciated.


He refuses to get couples or marriage counseling.

There are many misconceptions about couples counseling and the good a marriage counselor can do—but outright refusing professional help when you need it the most will only make your marriage harder to fix.


He insults you and most conversations turn sour.

Sometimes, we lash out at the people we love the most and say things we don’t mean. But if conversations frequently turn hostile and your husband’s response is to insult or attack your character, this is considered verbal abuse and is never okay.

Be wary of this type of behavior. No one has the right to treat you cruelly, much less your husband.


You fight all the time.

Another red flag to look out for is constant fighting. You never seem to have normal conversations with your husband anymore, and both of you are almost always angry or upset.

If these fights ever turn physical and your husband hits, shoves, or grabs you, this is domestic violence and should never be tolerated. Likewise, if your husband uses these fights as an opportunity to put you down or gaslight you, this is a form of emotional abuse.

If you feel that you or anyone you know is in danger, do not hesitate to reach out to any one of the crisis resources listed here.

Reasons Why My Husband Might Hate Me 

There may have been a time where your husband was your best friend. You told each other everything and looked forward to nights alone. Now, you barely spend time together. He’s grown cold or short-tempered. This is understandably heartbreaking and difficult for you to wrap your head around.


But it doesn’t mean your husband doesn’t love you anymore.


In fact, there’s a chance something else is going on—perhaps something you haven’t considered before.


To understand why your husband is treating you differently, here are a few things to keep in mind that might explain his behavior:


He feels constantly criticized.

Your husband loves you, but he may feel constantly criticized or degraded by you. Whether you mean to or not, it’s easy to get wrapped up in your own feelings and neglect how your words and actions affect him.


You take him for granted.

Marriage is a two-way street, but we often slip into narratives that our spouse lives and breathes for us. Though you should certainly be a priority in his life, you should never take your husband for granted or devalue his sacrifices.


You don’t instigate sex or he doesn’t feel you’re attracted to him.

If you and your husband have been together a while, it’s natural for either of your libidos to degrade or fluctuate due to age or medical conditions. However, that won’t stop your husband from wondering if he’s still sexy or desirable. If there are obvious signs of distress or apprehension in the bedroom, consider seeking professional help to rediscover and rekindle a healthy flame.


He thinks you are “nagging” him too much about things he can’t control.

Sometimes, when we are unhappy or frustrated with a certain person or situation, we peck insistently at our spouses for every little thing they did or didn’t do to make it better. This especially goes for things he cannot control, like a child’s failing grades or trouble at work.


He feels he can’t live up to your expectations.

Your husband loves you so he wants to make you proud. Unfortunately, he may feel like a failure because he has not reached certain goals, is struggling financially, or is somehow a bad person and therefore unworthy of you. As a result, he may act out in a self-destructive or negative way.

What Should I Do? Can I Fix This?

Have you ever heard the saying, “the only way to move forward is through”?


This is true for any difficult situation, including a failing or unhappy marriage. Although you’ll need your husband’s participation in order to mend your relationship, it doesn’t hurt to take the first step alone so he can follow after. (You’ve already done so much by acknowledging your emotions and reading this guide!)


To begin healing your marriage, here are a few things you can try out:


Figure out what’s really bothering him and talk it out.

How do you know if your husband hates you? Simple. Ask him.

Better yet, ask him about what’s been going on in his head and how you can fix it together. You’re not a mind reader and neither is your spouse. 

Only through consistent communication and active listening can you learn how to move past anger and pain.


Put the family/children first.

At the end of the day, what really matters is our loved ones. Refocus your attention and start putting the kids first as partners. A troubled marriage can deeply affect a child and lead to emotional insecurity and poor grades.

If you don’t have children, reach out to other people you both love and care for, such as extended family members and close friends. Ask how your marriage is affecting them. It may provide you with useful insight.


Seek couples or marriage counseling.

There comes a point in any unhappy marriage where it’s time to speak to a counselor. Even if you have a hard time accepting that something is wrong, it doesn’t hurt to speak to a qualified professional. Together, you can create a step-by-step plan to help strengthen your marriage, improve communication, build listening skills, and even nurture self-love.

By working with Emote, you and your husband will have the chance to attend therapy on your own terms. No need to worry about babysitters or busy work life! With Emote’s online therapy and counseling services, you can work with your schedule rather than against it.

Get Support with Emote 

In a tense or strained marriage, it’s hard to work things out when you barely speak to each other. But with time, patience, and most importantly help, you and your husband can learn how to be happy once more.


At Emote, our main priority is you and your mental health. Whether you’d like to schedule an appointment alone or with your significant other, a certified couple or marriage counselor can provide you with the tools and insight to better manage a difficult relationship or intimacy issues.


Be it through couples exercises, live video chat, or private text sessions, it’s never too late to get help.


With Emote, you are not alone.


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BetterHelp vs. Talkspace vs. Emote: Where Should I Go For Support?

BetterHelp vs. Talkspace vs. Emote

Comparing Online Therapy Providers

When 1 in 5 Americans cope with a mental illness of some kind, mental health services are crucial. 

Unfortunately, resources aren’t always accessible or practical. 

Online therapy services like Betterhelp, Talkspace, and Emote serve as affordable alternatives, providing emotional and psychological support at various pricing.

Each service virtually connects users with qualified mental health professionals. Users may communicate with their therapist or counselor privately in secure chat rooms, over the phone, or face-to-face in live video sessions. Each platform also has special features available to its users. Here’s a quick rundown of each:

  • BetterHelp: Launched in 2013, this California-based company has a broad user base with thousands of licensed therapists under its roster. Their services target a wide range of issues, including depression, anxiety, relationship issues, and grief. They also offer teen counseling through their affiliate site, TeenCounseling.
  • Talkspace: Founded in 2012, Talkspace is an online therapy platform home to a variety of mental health services, including marriage counseling, work-life planning, and one-on-one therapy. They’ve recently released an additional psychiatry service for those interested in prescription management.
  • Emote: Emote is an online therapy website offering affordable, flexible mental health services. Sessions are done over text or video chat (available via web or mobile app). Convenient and confidential, Emote’s services include couples therapy, grief counseling, and emotional support for those suffering from depression, anxiety, or PTSD, and other mental illnesses. All user information is secured under a HIPAA-compliant system and strict privacy agreements. Emote also offers articles on mental health care and links to crisis resources.

In this article, we’ll go further in-depth on the pros and cons of each platform and what to expect during the sign-up process.

Want a quick at-a-glance at each of the platforms? We’ve gathered the main points below:





Topics and services covered

Topics include mood disorders, couples and family therapy, addiction, eating disorders, stress, LGTBQIA+ topics, and self-esteem issues. 

Teen counseling is also available through an affiliate site.

Offers services through text messaging and weekly phone or live video appointments.

Topics include depression, anxiety, couples counseling, parenting, LGTBQIA+ topics, substance abuse, anger management, OCD, chronic illness, childhood abuse, and psychiatry.

Offers services through text messaging. No phone sessions. Live video appointments are offered at a premium.

Topics include mood disorders such as depression and anxiety, PTSD, couples counseling, self-esteem, LGTBQIA+ topics, gender identity, stress, substance abuse, trauma, grief counseling, and other mental health issues.

Offers services through unlimited messaging. Live video appointments are available on a weekly or biweekly basis, or as a separate fee per session.


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Starting costs

$60 per week for text therapy/counseling and 1 live video chat per week.

Also offers monthly subscriptions.

$65 per week for text therapy/counseling, no live therapy sessions.

Also offers monthly subscriptions.

$35 for the first week of therapy; $50 per week for subsequent text therapy, and additional fees for video sessions.

Also offers monthly subscriptions.

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Payment methods

Credit card, PayPal

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BetterHelp, Talkspace, and Emote: The Pros and Cons

According to research, online therapy may be just as effective as traditional therapy. However, just as in typical therapy, online therapy and counseling services pose differing obstacles when it comes to meeting client needs.

To determine the best online therapy experience, it’s important to weigh the pros and cons first.

Please also note that online therapy is not a substitute for crisis resources. If you or someone you know needs emergency help, reach out to one of the crisis numbers provided here.

better help therapy


  • Subscription costs include at least 1 live session per week.
  • Offers financial assistance/financing and a free trial for up to 7 days.
  • More than 15,000 licensed and certified counselors/therapists.
  • Remain anonymous with your therapist.


  • Homework and worksheets can be an added stress. 
  • Matches you with a therapist based on an automated questionnaire.
  • BetterHelp therapists will not diagnose conditions or prescribe medications.
  • Often not covered by health insurance providers.
talk space therapy comparison


  • You can hand-select the therapist you’d like to work with.
  • Plans can be paid for using Health Savings Accounts (HSAs) or Flexible Spending Accounts (FSAs).
  • You can claim $65 off your first month of service.
  • Psychiatrists are available to evaluate you and prescribe some medications at a pharmacy.


  • Live video sessions cost more and are not included in the basic subscription plan.
  • Requires users to have a monthly subscription even though plans are broken down by week.
  • Talkspace may analyze conversations using an AI.
  • Service is viewed as expensive for the limited contact with therapists.


  • The first week is only $35. Subsequent costs are $50 per week. Overall, a less expensive alternative without compromising quality.
  • Provides more individual, personalized support.
  • Plans can be paid for using Health Savings Accounts (HSAs) or Flexible Spending Accounts (FSAs).
  • Video-only therapy plans, and option to buy a single one-time session.


  • Emote may not be covered by your insurance carrier. 
  • Only have services in 4 US states currently.
  • Emote matches you to a therapist rather than you choosing from a menu of options.
  • It’s still a newer company, so it may not be as established in the online therapy community.

How Do These Therapy Providers Work? (Signing up)

Similar to in-person therapy, online therapy services have an assessment process before you can sign up. This process will determine both the type of therapy you will receive and the therapist you will work with. 

To learn more about each platform, we’ve outlined the steps below.


better help therapy


Step 1: Complete questionnaire

Through either the desktop or mobile app, you will be required to complete an automated questionnaire before using BetterHelp’s services. This questionnaire will identify your needs and the type of therapy you’re interested in (i.e. therapy for depression, anxiety, or addiction).

Step 2: Fill out the registration form

After completing the quiz, you may put in your information, including name and email. You may use an alias or nickname if you’d like to remain anonymous to your therapist.

Step 3: State your preferences for counselors/therapists 

Following registration, you will be asked to select therapist criteria, such as age, gender, and LGBTQIA+ or PoC representation. This way, you will be matched according to your comfort levels.

Step 4: Process your payment 

BetterHelp offers a 7-day trial for first-time users and financial aid at a discounted price of $60 per week. Non-discounted prices are offered on a sliding scale of around $80 to $90 a week, sometimes more.

Step 5: Wait for match and begin therapy

Determined by their algorithm, you will then be matched with a therapist within 24 hours.

talk space therapy comparison


Step 1: Take an assessment 

After signing up through their website or mobile app, you will be directed to a private chat room with a consultation therapist. You will then be asked routine questions about your needs and desire for therapy.

Step 2: Find the therapist you want to work with 

Following assessment, the consultant will suggest several therapists. 

Step 3: Start your therapy 

Once you select a therapist you feel is right for you, you may begin therapy. The type of sessions available will depend on your payment plan.

Step 4: Complete payment

Talkspace’s base payment plan is $65 per week for text-only therapy, paid monthly. Plans including live video appointments are more expensive but may be covered by health insurance.

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Step 1: Sign up and choose the best option 

Before signing up, you’ll be asked to complete a short and easy quiz to assess your needs and available therapy options. As with BetterHelp, you may use a preferred name or alias. 

Step 2: Get connected with a qualified therapist that’s right for you

After registration, you will be matched with an experienced therapist versed in your therapy needs. You may switch to a different therapist later if desired. 

Step 3: Start your therapy

Once matched with a therapist, you may set up your first virtual appointment. Therapy can be conducted over chat sessions or live video.

Step 4: Complete payment

Your first week with Emote will cost only $35. After which, text therapy services will be available for $50 per week with additional fees for 30-minute or 60-minute video chat appointments. You may also select text/video or video-only subscription plans. Therapy with Emote may be covered by your health insurance. 

BetterHelp vs. Talkspace vs. Emote: Final Thoughts

Online therapy is an effective alternative for those interested in therapy, but without the means or time to attend in-person therapy. Alongside a virtual therapist, you may have real-time conversations over the phone, video, or through unlimited text messaging.

However, just as every client is different, so are online therapy platforms. 

BetterHelp offers financial aid and weekly live video sessions, but downsides include lack of insurance coverage and personalized experiences. 

Meanwhile, Talkspace’s therapy services are versatile and intuitive but more expensive, with video sessions only available at higher prices. 

Emote, on the other hand, is currently only available in four states, but offers an intimate experience for users with a focus on comfort, confidentiality, affordability, and convenience.

With Emote, you’re not alone. 

Start today and receive a week of therapy for only $35. Subsequent plans are affordable and versatile—without compromising quality or ease of use. 

To learn more, visit our FAQ page or contact us at [email protected] for further questions.

Top Couples Counseling Exercises You Can Try At Home Today

A man and woman performing couples counseling exercises.

Couples Counseling 101

We all struggle with relationships. No matter how much we love someone—or how much that person loves us—conflicts arise, mistakes are made, feelings get hurt. 

Oftentimes, counseling is the best way to work through our problems.

Under the moderation of a licensed professional, relationship issues can be navigated and resolved in a controlled, safe space. 

While this may sound very clinical, it’s not!

When applied with techniques such as emotionally-focused therapy (EFT), couples therapy boasts a 75% success rate. Furthermore, couples therapy can be practical—you can sign up for affordable counseling online without ever leaving your home.

Through attention, care, and communication, counseling can serve as the foundation to a healthy relationship. 

In this article, we’ll go over some couples counseling exercises to try right at home.

Couples Counseling Exercises to Try with Your Partner

Several strategies are used during couples counseling and family therapy. For example, a family therapist or couples counselor may recommend exercises. Some benefit from supervision while others—such as those listed below—can be done at home. 

Whether you’re interested in marriage counseling, premarital counseling, or general couples therapy, these exercises can strengthen your romantic relationship.

Discover Each Other’s Love Language

As described in The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, a love language is someone’s preferred way of receiving affection. By identifying yours and your significant other’s love language, you can connect on a deeper level and find new ways to express yourselves.

The five love languages are:

  • Acts of service (such as chores or buying them a coffee).
  • Words of affirmation (“I love you” or “I’m proud of you,” and other verbal affirmation).
  • Receiving gifts (gifts specific to your/their interests, handmade gifts, cards).
  • Quality time (watching a movie together, going on dates).
  • Physical touch (hand-holding, cuddling, and casual touches).


If you’re unsure what your love language is, you and your partner can take the official Love Languages quiz.

The Book Swap

Sharing our interests with someone is not only a meaningful form of intimacy but a show of trust. 

Be it a book from childhood or something they’ve read more recently, by reading someone’s favorite book, you can gain a glimpse into what they value, what they love, and what inspires them. 

Even if the revelation is not deep—or if you don’t find the book all that interesting—by taking the time to engage with something important to your partner, you’re showing them you care about what they care about.

The Questions Jar

A question jar is an easy way to stir conversation between you and your partner. You can also think of it as a game; just as you needed an icebreaker when you first met, a question jar will help you get to know your partner a little better.

To start, get a jar and create a list of questions. 

These questions can range from simple to deep. Write them down on a piece of paper and remember to number each one. Cut each question into individual slips then fold and place them in a jar. 

Next time you two are hanging out, feel free to break out the jar and get a little personal.

Some ideas for questions include:

  • “What do you like best about our relationship?”
  • “What did you want to be when you were little and why?”
  • “What would be the last thing you do before you die and why?”
  • For parents, “Who do you think our kids take after, you or me?”
  • “What’s the first thing you noticed about me?”
  • “What are some qualities you like about yourself?”
  • “What’s your idea of a perfect day?”

Soul Gazing

Gazing deeply into someone’s eyes is not only romantic, but it can help build trust and motivate us to listen to each other better.

To start this exercise, look at your partner. You may either stand or sit on chairs facing one another. Be close enough to touch without actually touching. 

Then, gaze into each other’s eyes. 

This isn’t a staring competition—you’re free to blink, laugh, and fidget, but try not to talk or look away. Maintain eye contact for 3 to 5 minutes. A timer or listening to a song in the background can help you stay focused.

Once a few minutes have passed, take a breath and evaluate how you feel it, then vocalize it. 

What do you think about your partner? What are you grateful for? Say whatever comes to mind, even if you feel vulnerable.

The Good Qualities List

This couples therapy exercise is fairly straightforward. To check in with your emotions and remember why you and your partner love each other, write down what you like about your relationship.

You may come up with prompts such as “The things I love the most about you are…,” or “You bring a lot to the relationship by…”

You can even fill out a therapy worksheet like this. Try to label at least three things for four different questions. This way, you have something to look back on after an argument or a bad day.

Extended Cuddling

Cuddle time—perhaps the most important time of the day!

Not only is cuddling fun, but it’s also good for you! Cuddling releases a chemical called oxytocin, which in turn relieves stress, improves sleep, and alleviates blood pressure. 

Through the mere act of physical affection, you’re not only reaffirming your love for your partner, but you’re helping them feel better!

Try to carve out time during your routine to cuddle. You can make it a part of date night or put on a film at the end of the day and get comfy. If there isn’t time for either, cuddle before bed.  

Remember, cuddling doesn’t have to be a sexual act. 

Rather, by cuddling, you’re expressing your care and affection for your partner without the need for words (though words are nice, too!).

The Gottman Method

Created by Drs. Julie and John Gottman, the Gottman Method is a counseling technique aimed at developing healthy communication skills, managing conflict, increasing intimacy, and building trust, empathy, and friendship within the relationship.

With decades of research behind it, this method is often used during couples counseling. Under the moderation of a relationship expert, you and your partner can grow closer in a way you never expected. 

As this isn’t a simple exercise but rather a series of steps completed over a determined amount of sessions, it’s best to reach out to one of Emote’s licensed couples therapists or marriage counselors to try this method out.

Couples Counseling with Emote

No matter how strong or fractured your relationship is, you and your partner can always grow closer. Be it through communication exercises or self-help tools, no relationship is unworthy of nurturing. 

You can take your relationship to the level with the help of a couples counselor or therapist. As a mental health professional, a counselor or therapist is well-versed in communication, moderation, and empathy. 

And the best part is that it can be done virtually!

Through Emote’s online therapy services, a counselor is available to you from the comfort of your own home. No need to plan an appointment a month in advance or shuffle around a busy schedule. You and your significant other may simply text or set up a video chat session when it is most convenient. 

Online therapy is also affordable. With Emote, your first week will only cost $35. After which, you’re free to select any of our flexible subscription plans.

With Emote, you’re not alone. To learn more, contact us at [email protected] or visit our FAQ section.

Does My Wife Hate Me? The Signs, Reasons, and Solutions

A visiably upset wife sitting on the couch with her husband, while he ponders why does my wife hate me.

Every marriage has it’s highs and lows, but feeling hated by your wife, or the opposite of love, is never okay.


If you believe your wife hates you, they probably don’t. More likely, they are angry, frustrated, or disappointed by the state of your relationship. Thus, they are lashing out. 


This may be due to several reasons: money, neglect, lack of direction, or simple miscommunication.


Whatever the cause may be, these feelings aren’t permanent. 


With a little bit of compassion and professional help, you can mend your relationship and rebuild a happy marriage.


In this article, we’ll identify warning signs that your marriage might be on the rocks, why that may be, and how to fix it

Does My Wife Really Hate Me? The Warning Signs to Know

Changes in your wife’s behavior could be recent or slow-brewing. Perhaps you’ve noticed little things, like a lack of physical affection, or maybe they’ve lashed out in ways they never have before.


Regardless of what has been done or said, problems in a marriage need to be acknowledged. And although this isn’t easy, accepting the truth is half the battle.


When addressing the elephant in the room, here are a few warning signs to look out for.


  • She’s not affectionate anymore and avoids physical touch.

Despite common myths about marriage, your life together doesn’t need to be any less affectionate or intimate than it was during the early days. If your wife doesn’t kiss you anymore or disengages from any form of physical contact, something might be going on below the surface.


  • She’s grumpy, but only with you.

Whether we mean to or not, we often take out our hurt and frustration on the people we love the most. If your wife has grown passive-aggressive but won’t openly acknowledge how they feel, they might be dealing with ill emotions towards you.


  • She’s making decisions by herself that used to be joint decisions.

Trust is part of any healthy relationship. If your wife no longer includes you in decisions, especially major ones such as child-rearing, this is a serious breach of trust and must be called out ASAP.


  • She doesn’t smile or laugh anymore.

You may have noticed a drop in your wife’s mood. This may have nothing to do with you, but rather, an indication of their mental health, such as depression or stress. If so, your wife is likely in need of emotional support.


  • She has stopped sharing details about her own life with you.

Similar to mental health issues and trust barriers, another major roadblock to acknowledge (and subsequently clear) is communication. How your wife feels is just as important as how you do, but if she’s not sharing her personal life with you, she’s not including you in it.


  • She’s constantly distracted or absent.

A lack of presence, whether physical or emotional, might suggest your wife is avoiding you, even in your own home. She may do this by spending her free time alone, working late, spending more time with friends, or going to sleep earlier than usual.


Why Does My Wife Hate Me? The Possible Reasons

When navigating marital conflict, the last thing you want to do is jump to conclusions, like infidelity or that your wife is leaving you. Instead, keep in mind that your wife is a human being like the rest of us: There’s always a reason behind our actions. 


Some suggestions include:


  • You’re working too much and neglecting her (and the children).

Being lonely isn’t good for anybody. Neglecting close family members, especially your wife or spouse, can lead to low self-esteem and may distort their perspective. 


Building a home and having kids is a partnership. By prioritizing other responsibilities, like work or hobbies, you nurture resentment and loneliness rather than understanding and support.


This also goes for same-sex couples, where responsibilities such as child-rearing often fall more heavily on one partner than the other.


  • There are unplanned or hidden expenses.

Relationship problems and finances go hand in hand, with one study stating the issue of money is more pervasive and recurrent than other marital issues. This is understandable but no less stressful for your wife whenever you dip into savings without her knowing.


When faced with hostility, it’s normal but ultimately unhelpful to shut down rather than work through the problem. If you do this with your wife, she may feel you are stonewalling them, reinforcing stress, frustration, and even negatively affecting her health


  • You have repetitive arguments.

Married couples often argue about the same topics over and over again. But when these arguments become habitual, unhelpful, and mean-spirited, your wife is inclined to think and feel poorly about you, regardless of how much she loves you.


  • You’re not changing the habits that annoy her.

When we agree to live with someone, we agree to put up with them and their habits. However, if your wife has asked you to stop doing something but you keep doing it, her feelings are bound to get hurt. Do this enough times, and even minor past mistakes will rear their head in an argument.


  • You’ve lost the spark for life and lost your sense of ambition.

As we grow up, our dreams and ambitions should grow with us, too. Like a lot of people out there, you may have lost your sense of purpose, and the dreams you shared with your wife have fallen short. As a result, she may feel disappointed in what was supposed to be an exciting partnership—but is now a life of missed opportunities and boredom. 

How Can I Turn Things Around? The Solutions

When it comes to unhappy marriages, it may feel like there’s no going back to how things were. And in a way, that’s true. 


You and your wife are not the same people you were when you first started dating. It’s only natural for some couples to grow in opposite directions—however, given time and patience, that can also change. It can change for the better.


By reevaluating your mindset and making a few adjustments, your marriage may grow in ways you never thought possible. 


  • Start helping around the house more.

Something as simple as chores can make your wife feel appreciated and loved. By lightening the load on her shoulders, not only are you being a good spouse, you’re contributing to the care of the home you share.


  • Be more present with them and the children.

However dedicated you may be to your career or hobbies, spending time with loved ones is never time ill-spent. Take time off work or plan an activity to reconnect with your partner and kids.


  • Schedule date nights and become friends again.

The strongest marriages are built on friendship. By going out on dates, you can rediscover who your wife is, what they like, and what they want at this point in their life. Make it a point to get these dates on the calendar and stick to them.


  • Actively listen to them and stick through tough conversations.

When was the last time you really listened to your wife? By engaging in serious conversations, you open the door back into each other’s heart and reaffirm the love that’s already there.


  • Set new life goals together.

Marriage is full of milestones. Even if you already have a house, kids, and a career, it doesn’t have to end there for you and your wife. Book that vacation she’s always wanted to go on, or start saving up for house renovations—whatever you decide, just do it together! A new life goal doesn’t have to be so hard; start small and work your way up to all the things you wish to do together.


  • Discover a new hobby together.

A lot of men and women choose a joint, interactive hobby that can bring them together and help them build their communication skills. Learning a new skill or hobby can be a positive experience when shared. It’s also the perfect excuse to get out of the house. Plus, you’ll never know what you’ll discover about each other along the way.


  • Seek couples therapy or marriage counseling.

There is no shame in seeking professional help for your marriage. In fact, 97% of surveyed couples who attended counseling got the help they needed to improve or repair their relationship.


At Emote, we offer the exclusive opportunity to do just that, but with the extra benefit of accessibility. 


With online therapy, you don’t have to worry about babysitters or conflicting schedules. You’re free to contact your counselor whenever you want and set up appointments at a moment’s notice. All this and more can be done from the comfort of your living room at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy.


Rekindle the Spark with Emote

It’s hard to admit when we’re in the wrong, much less express our pain. Just as your spouse is struggling with negative emotions, so are you. And you both deserve to be heard.


Through Emote, a licensed therapist or counselor can virtually moderate and advise you without intruding on your space. 


By tackling the big issues, you and your wife can not only repair your relationship but grow stronger through open, unbiased communication. 


By attending online couples therapy, neither of you will have to put your busy lives on hold. You can communicate through text or set up live video chat sessions a day or a week in advance. 


Whatever you’re struggling with, your counselor is here to help. With Emote, you’re never alone.


Sign up today and start couples therapy for only $35. 


If this is your first time seeking online services, feel free to visit our FAQ page or contact us for further information.